Students go to school to learn – not to be harassed. This should be an exciting time – not one of fear. For some parents they see Bullying as a kid just being a kid. But this is by far the hidden truth.
Bullying & cyber bullying have no boundaries. It doesn’t matter if you are popular or not. Being a friend to someone who experiences the harmful effects of bullying can lessen the long-term effects.
The statistics on bullying and suicide are alarming:
- Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people, resulting in about 4,400 deaths per year, according to the CDC. For every suicide among young people, there are at least 100 suicide attempts. Over 14 percent of high school students have considered suicide, and almost 7 percent have attempted it.
- Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims, according to studies by Yale University
- A study in Britain found that at least half of suicides among young people are related to bullying
- 10 to 14 year old girls may be at even higher risk for suicide, according to the study above
- According to statistics reported by ABC News, nearly 30 percent of students are either bullies or victims of bullying, and 160,000 kids stay home from school every day because of fear of bullying
Bully related suicide can be connected to any type of bullying, including physical bullying, emotional bullying, cyberbullying, and sexting, or circulating suggestive or nude photos or messages about a person.
My brother’s son was bullied at school, to the point of not wanting to go to school, and not even telling his parents. His parents had to go to his school to find out where the problem was. When a child does not want to go to school, grades drop for NO reason, stays in room etc. can be just a few of the signs of your child being bullied.
I teach my children these rules:
Treat others the way you would want to be treated
Never judge a book by it’s cover
I know they listen to what I say by the remarks some of their friends have made, not in a bad way but in a good way. This makes for one proud Mama
There were children when I went to school that were made fun of on their personal appearance, not just the clothes they wore. Some schools have went to a dress code, at which I do not agree with at all. Here is why: Say they are to wear blue slacks well anyone can go out to Wal-Mart to buy those. BUT some will still go out to the mall and buy the name brand ones. SO this does not solve the problem at all. Because my brother’s son goes to a school where the dress code is inforced.
We as parents must teach our children the GOLDEN RULE!!
DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU
Taken a step further:
Speak to others and speak about others how you would like to be spoken to, and about
Ever heard the old saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me”. This is the furthest from the truth. Words have a lot more meaning than you might think, so be careful what you say to others.
Feel about others how you would have them feel about you
I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
Think of others the way you would like to be thought of
Thinking of yourself as superior, more or better than another is not a beneficial way of thinking. Given or received. If you would like to help someone you think is less fortunate, do it from love, not pity.
People who are thinking about suicide should talk to someone right away or go to an emergency room. They can also call a free suicide hotline, such as 1-800-273-TALK (8255). If you know of someone who is saying they can’t take it NO more, giving away their favorite items, saying people would be better off without them etc.. PLEASE get them help now!!
I love this site HERE because it will give you the signs to look out for if your child is being bullied at school or on the internet.
I’m leaving you with a video of two young boys who sing a song against bullying. The name of their group is Bars & Melody. They are so cute and brave. This is one song that should have been recorded and sent out to all schools to play the month of October for their school Anti-Bully programs. This song actually brought tears to my eyes.